Oh My Gosh

What is it with men these days. Where are the good ones, the decent ones, the ones who desire a real relationship with a real healthy woman? I just had a conversation with a guy I just met through match.com. His profile said he was separated yet he emailed and mentioned his ex wife. So when he called I point blank asked and he said well I don't know, said he was separated but hadn't filed for divorce and he did not know if it was over or something like that. So I said you are still married, he said well yeah I guess I am. I said I don't date married men. Oh yeah and this is his third marriage, which even if he was divorced, is not for me. But he hemmed and hawwed and gave me the I don't know crap. Then he said something like is was good to hear me be so sure about what I believe, so many times people don't do that. Gee like you really stand for something, clue if you are on match.com, it's over, file for a divorce and figure out why you got in a third bad marriage before moving on to another. Oh and his second divorce took him for all he had at the time.

I swear there are men out there who are letting themselves be emasculated by women over and over. When will these men grow a pair and get some self respect and get out of a bad/abusive relationship. Quit with the excuses like "I promised", or "I don't know", etc. Just grow a pair and get out, it makes you a real man if you stand up for yourself.. And guess what the abusive woman does not love you, respect you or see you as a man in any way. She has emasculated you severely and more than likely has, is and will cheat on you because to her you are not a real man so she goes and gets one. And she will just keep the abuse up and if you stay you will lose yourself, you will become a nothing, a shadow, the creativity, humor, goals, dreams and mind you have will be gone, it will be replaced by an empty shell, you will withdraw into yourself. She will isolate you away from friends and/or family by controlling you and your time. It can be very subtle that you do not realize it is happening. You will feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells, that is a horrible way to live. How do I know this-I experienced it growing up and in my marriage and have watched other women become like that and don't think because you a man it won't happen to you, it will. Abuse and the constant threat of abuse is soul destroying to any person no matter the gender. Just get the hell out and figure out what is wrong with you that you keep getting in these bad situations, fix yourself and then go find a good woman, we are out there. The ones who won't abuse you, take you for all you have, who will treat you with diginity and respect and honor you till death do part. And if you so admire a woman like that then why aren't looking for one like that or doing what you have to be with one like that. And this bullshit that you are not good enough for a woman like that. You know everyone deserves to be treated decently, no one has to stay in a bad or abusive relationship.

Right now I am listening to Steve Curtis Chapman's "Treasure of You" It talks about being God's treasure. God treasures each of us and loves us. So much so He sent His Son to die for our sins so that by believing in Jesus as Savior we can then be called daughters and sons of God. Be in a relationship with our Heavenly Father.

And to those who don't believe, search it out, and you will find out that God is real. There is an author Josh McDowell who set out to prove God was not real, that it was all not true but he found out it was true and is now an awesome Christian man. Check out his books and read about it. Read Dr Radmacher's "Salvation" to see what it means. "Knowledge Of The Holy" by AW Tozier talks about some of the attributes of God. I read it once a year. Also "The Ragamuffin Gospel" by Brennan Manning is another good book.Then there is the ultimate the Holy Bible. So non believers, read, study, check it out. God is real and loves you and desires you as His child but that is only possible through His Son Jesus Christ.

"Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit" Romans 15:13