Regrets??

Up to day 19 of this challenge and is something I regret.

I don't have any major regrets. Sure there are things I might have done differently had I known what I do now or relationships I might have skipped seeing how they ended but I also know those things shaped me and brought me to where I am now. I have done many years of counseling to let go of past guilt and shame to be in a healthier spot that I am. Life is to short to live with regrets because there are times regrets can weigh one down to not move forward in the now.

I know the crippling effects of shame and guilt and shame. How it keeps a person twisted up in knots and constantly going back to what they regret or feel guilt or shame about. There is so much a person can offer with their experiences of the past even those ones that are shameful or horrible. Those horrible or shameful things people leave buried inside because they fear others finding out. When one does that then whatever they are trying to keep buried has power and control over them.

I am a advocate for counseling to deal with those things in the past that have a hold of a person, that keeps them bound up in guilt, shame and fear. That keeps one looking back at different aspects of their lives and being weighed down with regret. It is painful to work through those things but there is such freedom on the other side. So if a person is weighed down with things of the past, find a good counselor, a person has to trust their counselor so don't stop looking till you find that one you click with. Then do the painful work of facing those things and working through them to find such freedom on the other side. However once you start in this process don't stop in the midst of it. You will be left with all of it hanging out there, the pain, the memories etc, with no guidance or direction or tools to finish working through it and getting past it. Once you are done, you will feel like a new person free to be who you really are.